Updated: Jul 28, 2020
I’m sure there’s a quote out there that talks about wisdom being the realisation that the more you know, the more you realise you don’t know, etc, etc.
And that was my recent “aha” moment when challenged by a trusted colleague to take a look at my beliefs about abundance and sacrifice – what believed I believed, and what I was doing that suggested otherwise!
If we consider Rhonda Byrne’s powerful messages about the law of attraction in her book The Secret, your actions are your powerful thoughts.
If you don’t, for example, treat yourself with kindness and respect, as a result you’re sending out a signal saying you’re not important enough, worthy or deserving. Importantly you won’t attract people who show you kindness and respect.
“But if I’m sacrificing myself for others, I’m being a good person!” exclaimed one of my clients this month.
“Wrong!” says Rhonda!
Her challenge is that sacrifice comes from thoughts of absolute lack. It is reinforcing the belief there is not enough for everyone so someone needs to go without. Those feelings do not feel good and will eventually lead to resentment.
So what does this mean?
Firstly, underpinning the law of attraction is the belief that there is abundance for everybody. We may believe that, or we may not. We may say we believe it, but it's not reflected in how we act.
Is there just one "bucketful" - and for you to have, I must go without? Or can we both have full buckets? Can there be a win-win situation every time, or does someone have to lose?
Secondly, it is each person’s responsibility to summon their own desires. You can’t do it for them. Your job is you. So unless you fill yourself up first, you have nothing to give anybody anyway.
Food for thought indeed…